It is very hard to ask for help.
In fact it is impossible.
So please do not ask a widow how you can help.
Just help.
Send a cleaning woman her way (thank you Jeannine).
Bring her bottled water on a weekly basis (thank you Matt)
Spend special time with her kids (thank you Alan)
Take her family out to a meal now and again (thank you Duffy and Sarah)
Offer to take her kids Christmas shopping for their mom.
Because even though she insists that a homemade gift is all she needs, the kids might want to do something else.
Send her massage certificates.
Send her mani/pedi certificates.
Pass along your shoes.
Drop off some groceries or a home cooked meal.
Because even though it is two years later, money and time are even more stressful and comfort is still needed.
Offer to come do work around her falling apart house and yard (electrical, gardening etc)
Give her lots of hugs. (thank you to all my friends for this)
Because no matter how much she may want to ask for help, she won't.
Bravo Gina! And Jeannine I don't know if you remember me from SMASH, but Bravo to you as well! And to anyone brilliant enough to step up.
Posted by: Terry Michaels | November 30, 2011 at 10:09 PM